Spring nesting...not just for the birds.

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First off, this is more an adventure of life post than an adventure outside post. So feel free to stop here if you were hoping for some outdoor inspiration; however, I imagine that many people in my life stage are experiencing some similar contemplations. As our family grows we are trying to figure out the larger decision of 'nesting' - where do we want to be to raise our family. As simple as that question sounds given that fact that we are past the identity stage of development, with age and family come the more logistical challenges like finances, careers, child care, schooling, and access to supports. Do we move outside of the city and into the forest where our weekend adventures can merge with our everyday life despite this making the tasks of everyday life a little more challenging? Or do we stay in the city, in our cute downtown home, where we can walk everywhere but lack the peaceful vibe that only a rural forest community can bring? This point of contemplation has not been an easy one as we try to figure out what direction to move forward. Does a decision really need to be made at this early family stage or can we grown into the answer over time? This, my friends, is what has been on my mind lately.

It all seems to come down to the idea of balance. This word or concept is classified as annoying for many or more of a buzz word in this day and age then a possible reality. I try to take its message seriously: family and self, work and self, work and family, city and trails, backyard and backcountry, saving and spending. Balance for me has both literally and figuratively been thrown off as I enter into these final stages of my pregnancy. Adventures are a bit more of a challenge with the late winter weather and the toddler factor. Weekends require baby prep work like cleaning and organizing. Energy has been fairly divided with most of it going to growing my baby boy then for me to personally use. I am okay with all of the above because I am confident that balance will be restored once spring has sprung and baby is in our arms (or in the baby carrier while we are in the forest :).

I have experience with balance. As I reflect back on my life thus far, sometimes this experience has been successful while at other times it has taught me important lessons.  I am trying to apply the same understanding of this concept to our current nesting contemplations. I am hoping that in writing about it I may find my compass. We are so lucky where we live. We are a short walk from the lake where we can play at the beach, run the trails, and paddleboard. We are a short drive to the forest for daytime hikes, trail running, and picnics. We are less then an hour from decent provincial park camping and less then two away from backcountry options. Our weekend warrior status is validated. The question that nags at me is - is that enough? Can I instill all of the values and family pass times into my boys that are so important to us while living downtown? Will the diversity of options, people, and city noises create character or become buzz as they try and figure out who they are? Will raising them in the forest make them drawn to the opposite and create distain for our weekend adventuring? I don't have these answers. I am not sure if anyone does. The factors involved are too complex and unique to each situation. The contemplation continues for now as I suppose there is no true urgency to decide. I hope that the fact that we are even raising these questions and making these conscious decisions will have an impact on our boys.

 

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